Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages is among my favorite book about love and relationships. It’s a book I love to share with other couples.
The premise of the book is simple. Love can be expressed in several ways. Each person has his own way of giving and receiving Love, or what the author calls the Primary Love Language. By knowing our spouse’s Primary Love Language, we would be able to express Love that is best understood by them.
Learning the 5 Love Languages is not the ultimate secret for a happy marriage, but the book can strengthen relationships or mend those who struggle in their marriage.
We must be willing to learn our spouse’s primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love.
The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman
After the Love has Gone
Many couples would wonder what happened to Love. Before their marriage, couples were so “in love” with each other. But that changed after getting married.
The problem is many couples think that the “in love” stage is the “real Love”. Being “in love” feels great and euphoric. Nothing else matters. They believe that what they feel for each other will last forever and they will live happily ever after. Just like in the movies.
But being “in love” is totally different from “real Love.” It is a temporary high. The author explains that True Love requires effort and discipline. True Love should be intentional. “In fact, true love cannot begin until the “in love” experience has run its course.”
Some researchers, among them psychiatrist M. Scott Peck and psychologist Dorothy Tennov, have concluded that the in-love experience should not be called “love” at all. Dr. Tennov coined the word limerance for the in-love experience in order to distinguish that experience from what she considers real love.
The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman
After years of counseling, Chapman has discovered that people express Love in five different ways. He calls them the 5 Love Languages. Chapman is convinced that once you identify and learn to speak your spouse’s primary love language, you have discovered the key to a long-lasting, loving marriage.
The 5 Love Languages are:
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Receiving Gifts
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch
In this book summary, we will learn each of the Love Languages and how to apply them for a long and lasting relationship with our love ones.
The 5 Love Languages Book Summary
Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4
