Now that we have learned the Primary Love Language of our spouse, the next logical step is to express love in their Primary Love Language.
Here are The Five Love Languages again.
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Receiving Gifts
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch
Sounds easy but some love languages doesn’t come naturally of us. For example, some people feel uneasy saying Words of Affirmation. Others are not very touchy and Physical Touch makes them uncomfortable especially in public. And what if our spouse Love Tank is fullest if we cook for them but we know we are not good in cooking at all?
Chapman insists that we need to learn how to show love to our spouse in their Primary Love Language. It may not be easy but it can be learned. It is similar to learning a new dialect. If our spouse can only speak and understand a foreign language, we will strive to learn that language for us to communicate properly.
When an action doesn’t come naturally to you, it is a greater expression of love.
The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman
The book The 5 Love Languages contains many real life examples of showing love in the different Love Languages. You can pick one suggestion that feels easier for you. As you get more comfortable, try another one and then another and another. Soon, loving your spouse in their Primary Love Language would come naturally to you.
This doesn’t mean that you can no longer express love in other ways. You can still show love in any of the 5 Love Languages. Expressing love in different ways can make the relationship more exciting. Just remember that it is through their Primary Love Language that their Love Tank gets filled faster.
Sweeter the Second Time Around
Chapman has encountered several couples with troubled marriages. His advice is the same, “Learn the love language of your spouse and choose to speak it”.
The husband and the wife can choose to learn it together at the same time. That is the ideal scenario. But Chapman has also counselled just the husband or just the wife. The other partner remains stoic. Yet, as one partner starts to fill the Love Tank of the other, he or she tends to reciprocate. Love is contagious.
The decision to love your spouse holds tremendous potential. Learning his/her primary love language makes that potential a reality. Love really does “make the world go round.”
The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman
Act now
Apply what you have learned from the book Happy Money with these suggestions:
- Discover your own Primary Love Language by asking the questions or taking the test mentioned in Part 3.
- Discover the Primary Love Language of your spouse.
- List down several ways to communicate love with your spouse’s Primary Love Language. Fill their Love Tank using your list.
Happy Valentines!!!
The 5 Love Languages Book Summary
Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4
